you know exactly who that girl above is. sure, you don’t know her by name or anything like that. but you know the role she plays. she’s one of the two dimes in the subway ride home. like, cheat-on-your-girl, must-have dimes. i’m talking like spend-your-entire-paycheck-on-a-date type dime. it may sound intense, but i’m just being real. i’m a man, so i know how men think. even if they aren’t all that, you gotta show them some love, because they’re just right there on the train, posted like a mailbox. and they are dying to get hit on. or so you think.
some people have the balls to approach these girls. i call them the hero. gutsy, risk-taking dudes. they have pick-up lines for days, and they can start conversations anywhere, anytime. they don’t even care if the woman has worked 10 crazy hours in the office, because they know that they can make it all better. they believe they can fly, like jordan, or a pre-pee-on-you kelz. i just can’t fade it. i feel like the last thing they want is me tryna put that metaphorical bug in their ear, spitting game on the train. and i think that’s what qualifies me as a certified shy guy.
tabi’s fly, but i’m shy.
what is a shy guy!? i haven’t even come up with the true definition yet. i just know how they act. shy guys only thrive in environments where there’s little or no pressure. like house parties where you know everybody. or like a school dance, because everybody you dance with, you sat behind in math class or their mom used to pick you up from the carpool line from school. or you took the bus one and a half hours with them every day. like me. or maybe i’m totally wrong, but you know what i mean. no pressure environments, you thrive. because you don’t have to commit to anything, or be too decisive.
the subway definitely isn’t that spot. too many unfamiliar faces. if you want anything to happen on the subway, you’ve gotta put yourself out there like max did in a goofy movie. and if you don’t know what i’m talking about, then that should be number one on the netflix queue. conversation is one thing, but conversation with one of those two dimes on the train is a completely different thing. and that’s why shy guys typically don’t do good work on the subway. the club is even worse, and i need a completely different entry devoted to that sometime in the future.
i feel like all shy guys eventually transition into the hero. it happens, but there’s a right time and place, and all that good stuff. karma, or something like that. i tried it one day. NYC. subway. last year. she was bad, too. like michael’s 3rd album, for real. dominican and black, i think. kinda like homegirl in the picture, sans the turtle neck. in fact, she was extra fly. dressed like she just came from brunch with jay and beyonce. i hit her with my camera while it was dangling from my wrist, and she just smiled. and then i worked magic.
her number is still in the phone book. 917…blah blah blah. and i fumbled it. she just never got the crucial call/text, and i don’t even know why. who knows. that’s probably why i don’t sport the cape and mask just yet. but i’m ok with that. besides, i got like a million and one things going on in my life, like that old juvenile song. but a girl ain’t nothin.
sike.
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christian rich - the decay mixtape [think electrorock meets hip hop and dates it for a bit.]
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evidence - the layover mixtape. this joint is CRAZY.
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GLC - i ain't even yet: the mixtape. kanye's G.O.O.D. music artist's latest offering.
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g*two - one man army. newest talent out the DMV. he's nice.
i’m definitely a member of The League of Extraordinary Shy Guys
you were made for this blogging thing.
i digg it
“…you’ve gotta put yourself out there like max did in a goofy movie.” ..lol..modi it’s so true! look what happened to max….he ended up with the girl right? This quote could be applied to all aspects of life….you need to take risks in order to get what you want whether it be a boy/girl or a job…
modi you have a great personality…so if you did take that risk and talked to the girl on the subway or the one sitting next to you at a table at BBQ’s (lol)…the worst that could happen is that you walked away knowing you had a great conversation with a stranger..
i’m all about the league of extraordinary shy guys. and look at my icon. he’s a shy guy. literally. google him. he’s from mario.
im down with what sarah said lol
just do it, like nike dog
p.s. haha u know im diggin the icon
i feel u modi! but whats the worst thing a girl can say? no? roll her eyes? giv u the evil look? u didnt call her and that coulda been the woman of ur dreams…take chances man!
oh i take chances ask all the girls on campus. yzr. some end up bad some end up great. i just like my comfort zone. more shy guy chronicles coming soon. it’s for the shy guys out there. they know what i’m talking about.
this has to be my favorite entry you’ve posted. i love the guy perspective. here’s my female perspective.i love the subway chats. there’s nothing like having a horrible horrible day– i’m talkin got to work late, left your wallet and cell phone at home, accidentally shredded some important document, got chased three blocks by a wandering pit bull kinda bad day– and having some random dude try his very hardest to make you smile. in a matter of minutes my horrible day finally has a nice story that i can share with my friends later that night about a guy on the train who didn’t take offense to the awful glare i was giving the world and decided to talk to me. anyway… in my opinion every shy guy has the potential to be a hero. all it takes is that initial smile, “hi”, or wave. no biggie if you never actually dialed that number that you received after the conversation went ever so smoothly. i think that turning around my day –and possibly yours too –is enough of an accomplishment to make you the hero.
awww who is this guy he sounds so cute lol
in total agreement with makkah.
Love this!
just a great post. period. on your way, shy guy.
First things first, in response to Whitney. Im that guy. 2nd. How do you ever expect to get the girl of your dreams if you aren’t ever in attack mode? Are you a man or a mouse? Are you just gonna sit back and watch some chump get the girl you’ve been dreaming about your whole life?You only get 3 great women in your life, I had 3 of mine before I reached my 20’s, and If I know you like I think I do, Im sure you’ve already had 1. Yup, you know who Im talkin about. How many times have you seen a nice young lady walking and she’s with some Willie Lump Lump ass dude? too many times. So step up to the plate and knock one out the park. Here’s another hit Barry Bonds. Plus girls like confidence anyways. The only that will happen is, she says NO or makes up some weak excuse and then you’re back to square one right where you started before she said NO. So you dont lose anything. You only have everything to gain.
Im in attack mode as I type this..
Whitney what up babe
i can most def cosign that liquor courage. fully and totally relate-able. LOL I had previously coined it confidence juice early this year but of that extra “attack mode” that it causes.
This forreal has to be the most sincere post. I love this because I always wonder the same things too. I do see some fly guys on the train who I want to talk to too, but I’m shy too. Yeah and Makkah, it really does make our day when a guy gets the courage to talk to us, no not tell us we’re sexy, God bless us for our bodies, or all that grimey stuff (girls you know what I mean), but genuinely talk to us. About life maybe, or that what we are reading looks interesting, or that the t-shirt I have on is cool. It really makes a difference because we both will be thinking about the conversation for the next two days at least. But if it doesn’t happen, the guy or girl will happen to wonder what could’ve happened (or go on Craigslist to try to find that “missed connection” on the train that day). You shouldn’t have to wonder when you could just do. Don’t be shy because you will feel so much better when you do.
Rambling, man
Living in NYC (here I go again) I am all too often plagued with the desire to talk to the dime on the subway, of which there are sundry, especially on the A/C between Nostrand and Chambers in the early mornings…I swear fo’ Jesus.
Being a shy-awkward turtle myself, I’ve never been the type to approach any chick with anything other than the sincere, if anything at all, but I swear, women don’t be making it any easier. Sure I get the occasional smile, perhaps even the occasional inviting once-over, then smile, but for most chicks this seems to revert into the skeptical, “I’m not interested” stone-face. Whether a defensive mechanism to ward off all would-be lump ass mufuckas, it definitely succeeds in deterring me too. Maybe I don’t feel like putting in the work, maybe I’m just downright scurred. Still, self-second-guessing aside, I gotta say I find the cold approach weird in general.
I mean sure, other day, seen this honey on the train–and she was fyne. Just like, classic, girl, I’d write a song about you if I could play an instrument type fyne. And yeah, she was looking fly without even trying. But I was like, “where’s it going to go, I mean, really?” Crowded, elbow-to-elbow subway traffic, morning, all I had to go on was a Japanese-influenced Black panda decal against a White cotton tee. But she had the stone-face! I dunno, maybe I’m just a pussy. No, I am a pussy, ’cause she was standing next to me like the whole time. Yeah, now that I think about it, I am a pussy. What’s the worst that could have happened, right?
though we discussed this ad nauseam the other night, i will comment
It’s okay for you to talk to girls on the train, just be sincere, and keep in mind that a lot of them have probably dealt with their fair share of guys who they gave their number and they got the same shitty ass guy they expected, and then had to find an awkward way to ward off any further conversation. Maybe this is just a problem I run into, but it’s an annoying enough problem that I feel that I have the right to complain, lol.
Ahh that is soo classic. Personally I don’t care even if you have graduated out of the shy guy stage and know if you went over there and talked to her that you could bag her like some groceries….there is still the fact that if she denies you with the stone face, you gotta sit there for the rest of the train feeling like a dumbass and trying not to look at her fineness! now that is a feat you just can’t get over….but I guess it doesn’t hurt the worst she can say is No right?
*Cue Nas’ Latest Single*
I guess she must need a HERO!!! She must need a HEERO!!!!
Lol.
Shy Guys Can’t roll wit me !!
That was written with a lot of creativity and honesty, I enjoyed it. As a young women who frequents the NYC #2 and A B and C trains up and downtown, I can definitely relate to the flip side of this article…the woman’s prospective. Sometimes we spot an attractive guy on the train and in our peripheral we are waiting for that dash of attention, whether it’s just a faux discreet stare, or a smile, or even the ohh so rare verbal greeting…we love it, or at least I do…even if we don’t show it in our body language or facial expression, you have definitely made our day, and we will tell the girls about “that guy” who was tryna holla on the train. Its a cat and mouse chase, a game rather, some a pawns while others are players…we all choose our roles.
I agree with Juan, you were made to blog.
Shy guys are my FAVORITE! To be honest.
I mean yeah, usually I ‘hero’ will get my attention, will initiate conversation and will get things kicked off but.. in the long run, the shy guy is better… It’s all about the chase. Shy, to me, means it’ll take longer to totally figure him out. Kind of a mystery, something to work towards, and a lot of times, when I’m lookin for somethin real I wanna be the one to approach the guy, not vice versa.
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I definitely feel you on this and this describes me to a tee. I enjoy being in my comfort zone, and maybe too much. I rarely drink, but when I get some of that “liquor courage” whether it be from alcohol or from just being in that “I don’t give a f*ck” type mood, i’m down for whatever.
Great Post Modi.
awww, I LOVE shy guys…it’s true that they’re harder to meet but it’s definitely more worth it when it does happen.